Happy New Year from the world’s shittest blogger!
I was featured on the BBC podcast The Conversation, hosted by Kim Chakanetsa, along with Nina Steele, founder of of Nonparents.
Please check it out!
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Childfree African 
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Hey
I got a chance to listen to the BBC Podcast and it was such an eye opener because last year I had such a tough conversation with my mother who decided to ask me when am I having kids and I could not lie to her so I told her I don’t want kids, she almost lost it, if I wasn’t a grown ass man I swear she would have whooped my bottom LOL. She still does not support my choice, but I was happy when I hear the podcast and had a sigh of relief because I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Just want to thank you and Nina Steele for sharing your stories and helping me feel human again.
All the best for 2021
Zacarias Paulo
Maputo
Mozambique
What a wonderful conversation. Funny, touching, and real. I am writing a novel with an African narrator who feels this way (but takes a while to get clarity on her own feelings) so I really appreciate this platform and this particular podcast episode! What a relief to see these conversations taking place out in the open. xo
CBS
Please let me know when your novel is out!
Hi,
I really enjoyed your conversation on the BBC. I’m a hetero normative white male who lived in different parts of Africa for more than 30 years. I’m married w/o children. My African friends think that there is something wrong with me and cannot understand why I don’t have many kids. My reason is simple: life is had and the prospect of death overwhelming. I didn’t ask to be born. I refuse to give the burden of life to an unmasking other. I love children. I am a good uncle. I help pay for school for friends’ children. There are so many unloved children already here. If you must raise a child, adopt.
Your comment reminds me of this quote by Gustave Flaubert: “The idea of bringing someone into the world fills me with horror. I would curse myself if I were a father. A son of mine! Oh no, no, no! May my entire flesh perish and may I transmit to no one the aggravations and the disgrace of existence.”
Thanks for stopping by!
Fantastic quotation! Thanks for that 🙂
apologies for the typos Doreen!